homoSEXual

Here's the latest thing I've been thinking about. One of the greatest things that defines the life of a gay man is what happens behind closed doors. It's an odd thing, because straight guys aren't usually defined by the fact that they boink women. That's why I don't understand the 'separate but equal' concept that exists.

More than anything else, I think it's the sex thing that upsets those who are opposed to the gay marriage question. My take on it? I could care less. I'm a fan of domestic partnership, but the only advantages to marriage are financial/tax benefits and of course the legal benefits enjoyed by the next of kin. A properly drafted DP bill would assure that, and the onus of marriage would be removed.

Of course, there are purists who feel that marriage is the only way. Obviously, I'm not one of them. All marriages are domestic partnerships. By the same token, all domestic partnerships are not marriages. The difference? Religious sanction. We all know what the religious right (also called the Republican Party) thinks about that. (apologies. I couldn't resist the poke.)

Prezznunt Chimpy isn't going to sleep until the constitution is amended to specifically deny a right to a group. That bothers me. I don't feel that anyone regardless of their protected status should be denied a right. I know, I know...radical fag spouting the liberal adjenda.

Anyway, a random thought. Meanwhile in Bobland....

The quest for dateable men in this area code continues, and it continues to this day! I'm having a nice time with the Snowhater (the guy I wanted to make out with on the sofa earlier.)

(...and yeah, we made out on the sofa) Snow has various issues, though. I know that everyone has issues, but the trick is to define issues that are compatible. It's the whole "Baggage that goes with mine" thing. He's an interesting bloke, though and certainly one to know better, if for no reason than to make a friend. He's a lot like Peron in some ways, namely my comfort level when we're around each other, and the ability to pick up on conversation. That's becoming a more important feature as life goes on.

Also heavily featured in my personal life is a self-destructive individual which is quite trying. On one hand, I want to be a supportive friend, but I also really REALLY can't condone self-destruction. I've always had that strange tic. I know my own lifestyle has it's various self-loathing aspects attached to it, but none of them are life-threatening or even have the potential to be arrested.

Not so close in (and in fact, I don't even know the guy because I didn't crash Boatboy's birthday party--Damn you Fuckquita!!) Todd has hopefully had an amazing meeting with his chum from California. With my own issues about not being able to date within one's area code, I can empathize with him. He posed a question, "Is it possible to fall in love over the internet?" My answer is "sure!" I'm meeting every interesting person via the internet, so it's a viable method for falling in love as well. It also has a filtering effect which makes the bizarre seem normal and balanced. That's from the anonymity of the thing. Of course, I wish him well. We've chatted back and forth (Todd and I) so I believe that he is walking in eyes wide open. I just really hope it works for him.

Everybody needs happiness in Bobland. Haouli makahiki hou!